Healing is not something that someone else can hand to you. It’s not a gift wrapped up and delivered by a therapist, a friend, or a teacher. Healing is something that awakens from within. Somatic experiencing is about creating the conditions for you to access that inner power—your own river of life force—so it can flow freely again.
Untangling Anger and Grounding
Often, clients come in carrying anger that feels misdirected. At first, it may seem like they want to fight the world, or even me. But once we ground together, the truth emerges: the anger isn’t about me at all. It’s about a friend who frustrated them, or a situation that felt disrespectful.
Somatic work helps untangle this projection. Instead of anger spilling onto everyone, it comes back inside, where the client can recognize: This is the change I want. I don’t want a friend who disrespects me. That clarity is the beginning of transformation.
When Trauma Leaves Us Helpless
Other times, someone arrives in a state of collapse—almost lifeless. This is what trauma does: it robs us of our power. Where we should have made a choice, trauma made it for us. We’re left wondering, Where do I belong?
I see this as water trapped in a narrow stream, when it’s meant to be a river bursting with life. Clients in this state often freeze, even asking me, “How should I sit?” My response is always: How do you want to sit? Because healing begins when you reclaim your own agency, even in small ways.
Healing Comes From Within
It’s important to remember: nobody out there is going to heal you. What others can do is create conditions—safe, grounded spaces—for you to access your own healing. The power is yours.
The Role of Voice in Somatic Healing
Some people think somatic work is only about the body. But voice is just as vital. Voice is how we project power. It’s how we bring what’s inside to the outside. When you laugh, sing, or even sigh, you’re sending vibration from within you out into the world. That vibration is healing.
Grounding as the First Step
As we deepen into somatic healing, grounding is always the first step. It’s the foundation that allows anger to be untangled, helplessness to be met with agency, and inner power to be reclaimed. From there, the river of life can flow again—strong, vibrant, and free.